Why successful men use escorts: what the rich and the beautiful have in common

When you understand how the economics of dating

change as a function of success,

you can better comprehend why some highly successful men

opt to use escorts.

The reality is that the higher your normalized sexual marketplace

value, the more traditional dating becomes prohibitively expensive,

not necessarily in terms of money,

but in terms of time and emotional labor.

Successful men, much like exceptionally beautiful women, face a unique suite of problems that the average person does not experience or sympathize with.
For a man whose time is incredibly valuable—such as a top-tier corporate lawyer billing $1,300 an hour, or a tycoon commanding much more—the “cost” of a traditional date is astronomical.

The True Expense of the Dating Pipeline

For a man in the traditional dating pipeline,

securing a date requires a massive investment of time

and energy before the date even begins.

He must expend emotional resilience and energy to approach women in person, risking inevitable rejection.
Alternatively, he must spend time curating a dating profile, swiping through hundreds of accounts, and playing the “texting game” to make a woman feel safe and attracted.
He must plan the date, block off an entire evening from his demanding schedule, commute, and cover the monetary expenses of the evening.

A three-hour date, bookended by an hour of travel, costs a man making $1,300 an hour $5,200 in lost time alone, excluding the effort spent securing the date and the actual monetary cost of the date itself.

Despite this massive investment of time, effort, and expense,

there is absolutely no guarantee of mutual attraction

or a sexual encounter.

The dating process requires significant emotional labor from men.

Men must be charming, funny, and cool to stimulate a woman’s emotions and arouse her attraction.

They must listen and show care, doing so without giving the impression that it is work or that they would rather be doing anything else, as feigned interest will ruin their chances.
For a man working 80 hours a week, he simply might not have the bandwidth for this process. Traditional dating can feel like another exhausting job—except it is a job he is paying to work.