Introverted Men Have an Unfair Advantage
There is a tale of two men. One is introspective,
spending a lot of time by himself.
But he isn’t just sitting alone; he is with books he’s interested in,
focused on his hobbies, building his life,
and focused on his relationship with the Creator and himself.
He is focused on improving himself and being self-aware.
The other guy is an extrovert.
He gets along with a lot of people, loves to party, loves to go out,
and is not afraid of speaking or putting himself out there.
However, because he isn’t as introspective,
he may not always have the most value to share
because he is always outside, never going within.
He doesn’t take the time to connect with himself
or lock in on hobbies that can further his life,
like reading books.
The Extrovert’s Trap
There are many extroverted people who have a nice social life,
but when it comes time to work on their own life or focus
on their purpose, they can’t do it.
They have to let social media know their every move and dream
because they can’t just sit with their own thoughts.
For many people, the scariest part of COVID wasn’t the virus itself;
it was the fact that they had to be home
and sit with their own thoughts.
They were scared because they didn’t know
what to do with themselves.
The Goal: Becoming an Ambivert
Being an introvert is not necessarily better than being an extrovert,
but there are advantages to the introverted personality.
The introverted man can learn extroverted traits
and become an ambivert, which is the goal for all human beings.
An ambivert is both an extrovert and an introvert.
When you are an ambivert, you are able to take a solo journey,
go ghost, and focus on yourself when you need to.
This allows you to dig deep and find your purpose—your reason
for being here and wanting to stay alive and contribute to society.
Knowing your purpose provides a much better feeling
of fulfillment than just throwing things at the wall
and not knowing what sticks.
Introverts understand that sometimes you have to go within
and trust that the answers are inside yourself.
The Danger of Lacking Introverted Traits
While extroverts are great at hanging out and connecting with people,
if they don’t learn some introverted traits,
they enter dangerous territory.
They might become too dependent on society
and other people’s opinions
because they are not comfortable in their own skin.
They might reach a point where they are just camouflaging
with everyone else, fitting into any room
but never knowing which room they truly belong in
because they never spent enough time with themselves.
If you are constantly surrounded by people—growing up with siblings,
going to school, going to college—you never really get to go
deep within yourself and figure out who you are.
The Power of Walking Alone
An introverted man has an advantage
because he learns essential skills, like being okay in his own skin.
Not everyone is going to be married
or have the best friends all the time.
You have to be willing to walk away from situations that don’t serve you.
If you don’t learn how to be by yourself
and be okay with your own company,
you might stay in situations that don’t serve, help, or heal you.
You might stay in situations that
keep you down instead of lifting you up.
One of the most powerful things a man can do
is learn how to be alone,
because there might come a season where he has to walk
away from people, places, and things that no longer serve
his mission or constructed identity.
If you are not willing to walk away from toxic situations,
the environment will shape you,
and you might become toxic yourself.
Embracing Seasons of Isolation
It is very dangerous for an extroverted man
to only be an extroverted man.
It is highly recommended to carve out time each day,
like a 30-minute walk, just for yourself.
If you can do that as an extrovert,
you learn the advantages of being introverted.
The goal is to be ready for whichever season of life comes your way.
In order to be ready for a more extroverted, social season,
you must learn extroverted traits.
To be ready for a season where you must walk solo,
you have to be comfortable doing things on your own.
There is always a season in a man’s life
where he has to walk the path alone,
especially if he has to let go of a friend group that no longer aligns
with where he is personally going.
We live in a world where attention is scattered,
but the power of focusing on yourself is immense.
When you focus on yourself, you get to learn
your purpose—something that can never be taken away from you
and that you can utilize to
become successful, reach goals, and feel fulfilled.
