How to Disappear and Transform Yourself
The more you open your life up for display,
the more people find a way to drag you down.
There is something powerful about disappearing,
working in the shadows, becoming unavailable,
and committing to becoming the next version of yourself in secret.
Knowing that when you reappear, your transformation
will shock the world can be exhilarating.
The process breaks down into three key parts: how to disappear,
what to do in the shadows, and how to reappear.
1. How to Disappear
Shut Your Mouth
Your mouth betrays you much more than you know,
and you need to get it under control.
You will no longer speak openly about your life to anyone else,
including your family, friends, and co-workers.
The only exception is your life partner,
and only if you know they want you to succeed.
Our natural habit is to spill information,
but to truly disappear, you must learn to catch thoughts before they
leave your mouth and become a complete mystery to everyone.
Only Care What You Think
To disappear and stay hidden,
you have to reprogram your mind to stop caring what others think.
People do not actually care about you,
but the assumption that they do dictates a lot of your actions.
You must create a person in your mind, that person is you,
and obsess only over what that person thinks about you.
Ask yourself if you would be proud of yourself
or happy with what you did.
Through this process, you will be less of a puppet to others
and more in control of your own life.
Hide Your Plans
As you develop ambitious plans on this journey,
you will naturally want to share them with those around you.
Do not do it. Keep those plans close to your chest like they
are the passwords to your treasure.
Imagine that every time you speak about your plans,
you reduce your chances of accomplishing them by 5%.
If you need advice or expertise to aid in your planning,
do so with surgical precision:
find the exact right person, reveal only the bare minimum,
obtain the knowledge you need, and disappear again.
Hide Your Progress
Progress will eventually come, but do not let anyone see it.
Do not show off your improved physique, your growing wealth,
or your new skills. Focus strictly on progressing even more.
Going back to your old ways mid-transformation will likely reverse
all your progress and put you back at square one.
You will feel an urge to share the changes in your life,
but you must flex your willpower, keep things boxed in,
and recycle that energy as fuel to reach the next level.
Hide Your Tears, Blood, and Failures
Crushing it in the shadows is going to be tough.
You will be physically hurt, mentally fatigued, and you may bleed
or cry after hitting obstacle after obstacle.
Instead of complaining to a close friend
or seeking comfort from family, you need to bleed, sweat,
and cry all by your lonesome.
Patch up your own wounds in the shadows,
and let it build your strength and character.
Let each moment of hitting rock bottom be the moment that catapults
you to another level of performance.
2. What to Do in the Shadows
Pick Your Targets
You need to know exactly what you are transforming into.
Be specific about what it is you want to build,
whether that means getting absolutely jacked
or building a money-printing business.
Write your goals down and put them up in places
where only you can see them.
Revolve Your Life Around Crushing It
Every waking hour should be planned to drive toward your goals.
You need the mentality that this is your one chance in life,
and you must dedicate your every breath to it.
Everything you do should be intentional:
- Move to an apartment closer to the gym or exercise classes that fit your goals.
- Join classes that teach you the specific skills needed to succeed.
- Time-box your day so you spend at least a few hours working on your transformation daily.
- Dedicate a specific day to reviewing your plan, tracking your progress, and breaking larger goals into smaller, manageable pieces.
Reprogram Your Mind
You are going to have to learn to love this disappearing act
and find happiness in crushing it in the shadows.
It will feel strange at the beginning, but eventually,
you will find yourself enjoying the pain
and enjoying not being seen.
Embrace this shift in your thinking,
as it is a core part of your positive transformation.
3. How to Reappear
After you have accomplished your transformation,
the final step is supposed to be reappearing in society.
However, if you do this right,
something very interesting will happen along the way:
you will no longer care to reappear.
You will have become one with the shadows.
Your life will have transformed beyond your expectations,
and you will find a calming peace in remaining a mystery to most.
You will keep pushing toward bigger, better goals,
having built a new life that you enjoy far greater
than the one you had before.
