1. Keep your big goals and plans secret
It’s perfectly fine to share and celebrate your achievements with the world.
Tell the story of your journey and everything that led to your success.
However, it’s advisable not to divulge your major long-term goals and plans to others.
When you announce your big goals publicly,
you may experience a sense of satisfaction and accomplishment
without actually taking the necessary steps to achieve them.
This can lead to a loss of motivation and hinder your progress.
Therefore, it’s generally a good practice to keep your significant goals and plans private,
sharing them only with those whose support and assistance you genuinely need.
2. Keep the intimate details of your life secret
You get to know your friends better when they share things related to their lives,
and they understand you more when you share things related to your life.
Sharing is a good thing, but sharing every detail of your life is not always a good idea.
Oversharing everything that happens in your life
with your best friend is one of the common mistakes people make.
Some things are meant to be kept personal.
Here are some details you should never overshare about your life:
It’s generally not a good practice to share every intimate detail
about your sex life with your best friend
unless you are seeking advice or clarification about a certain issue.
If there’s genuine interest and no judgment involved,
it’s okay, but otherwise, it’s best to keep this part of your life private.
While many people think that talking about the good deeds
they’ve done will earn them respect, it can often have the opposite effect.
Good deeds lose their purpose when they are shared,
so it’s better to let your actions speak for themselves.
Let people witness your kindness rather than you boasting about it.
3. Never declare how enlightened you are
You’ve probably encountered individuals who frequently talk about how wise and enlightened they are.
It’s important to note that many of these people excel in speaking about their enlightenment,
but the quality of their advice may be lacking.
Ironically, the more someone emphasizes their enlightenment,
the less enlightened they may appear.
True enlightenment is reflected in:
- One’s actions
not in self-descriptions.
It’s essential to be cautious when someone openly declares themselves as enlightened,
as many individuals who do so may not genuinely be enlightened.
In reality, they often only believe themselves to be enlightened,
rather than embodying the qualities associated with true enlightenment.
4. Keep your family issues and drama secret
It’s important to understand that there’s no such thing as a perfect family.
Every family faces its own set of challenges and problems.
However, this doesn’t mean you should openly discuss every issue with others.
Keeping your family issues private is often a wise choice.
Not everyone is genuinely interested in or has good intentions
when it comes to your family matters.
It’s essential to maintain a balance between seeking advice
and different perspectives when needed and protecting the privacy of your family matters.
5. Never talk about how heroic you are
Telling stories where you always present yourself as the hero
with exaggerated self-worth can make those stories unpleasant and boring.
It’s important to remember that nobody is perfect, and everyone makes mistakes.
People tend to find it difficult to engage with someone
who constantly portrays themselves as always right and a hero,
as it can come across as dishonest.
A compelling story isn’t about the main character winning every battle
but rather about them facing losses and challenges along the way,
only to ultimately triumph in the end.
It’s the journey, growth, and overcoming adversity
that makes the story interesting and relatable.
6. Keep your income secret
Keeping your income confidential can indeed have several advantages:
Privacy and Security
It protects your privacy and reduces the risk of being targeted for various reasons, such as scams, theft, or simply envy.
As mentioned, it can help you avoid unnecessary drama and
conflicts that can arise when people know your financial details.
Independent financial decisions
You can make financial decisions without external pressures, and
this freedom can lead to a more peaceful and fulfilling life.
Indeed, many successful and wealthy individuals prefer to keep their income and financial details private.
Publicly flaunting your income can sometimes attract unwanted attention
and potentially harm your personal and financial security.
However, it’s essential to strike a balance between privacy and transparency,
especially when dealing with financial matters like taxes, investments, or financial planning,
where sharing relevant information with the right professionals is crucial.
Maintaining personal boundaries around income is a wise decision.
7. Keep the unpleasant things you’ve heard about others secret
Gossiping and speaking negatively about others behind their backs
can indeed harm your reputation and relationships.
It’s generally a good practice to refrain from talking about people
when they’re not present, especially in a negative or judgmental way.
This can help maintain trust, respect, and healthy relationships with others.
When you engage in gossip or speak ill of someone without their knowledge,
it can create an environment of mistrust, anxiety, and negativity.
Instead, focusing on positive and constructive conversations
can lead to stronger and more meaningful connections with others.
Being known as someone who doesn’t gossip or speak negatively
about people can improve your reputation and
make you a more trustworthy and respectful individual.
It’s a valuable quality to cultivate in both personal and professional relationships.
Until we meet, stay safe.