6 Ways to Build Unshakable Self-confidence
Confidence is not just important;
it is essential for living a good life, exploring your potential,
getting opportunities, and achieving your goals.
Confidence doesn’t just build your career, acquire power,
or help you get the girl you desire;
it also makes you a happier person.
You will get so much further in life if you simply stop being timid
and afraid and chase what you desire.
The person who talks about himself to the public,
voices his concerns, and markets himself gets the opportunity,
even if they are less skilled and qualified.
This is the opposite of the person who is skilled and qualified
but isn’t confident enough to stand up.
I understand this because I lost a lot of opportunities
because I was timid and passive.
I disguised it with excuses like “I don’t want it” or “I am an introvert.”
In reality, I lacked confidence.
Here is your guide on how to build self-confidence:
1. Confront Your Fears
There is no shortcut to gaining confidence.
You have to face your fears.
List down all your fears and be ruthless with yourself.
Some common fears include:
- Social rejection: Go and approach that girl.
- Fear of failure: Start working on that project.
- Vulnerability: Standing alone in the spotlight makes one feel exposed and judged. Face it.
- Fear of public speaking: Take on a presentation.
You may fail initially and feel uncomfortable,
but that’s the point.
It is a sign you are growing past your comfort zone.
Fail, fail again, fail harder.
Reprogram your subconscious mind by confronting your fears.
2. Dress Sharp
If you look nice, you will automatically feel confident.
By dressing well, you will start to feel much better,
and that confidence will show on your face.
Practice the art of style and get some interesting clothes
that fit well on your body.
Dress in your style and the way you want to be seen.
Don’t dress to impress others; dress to impress yourself.
Dress in a way that when you look in the mirror,
you admire the person you are seeing.
3. Get Physical
Your body has a powerful influence on your mood.
Every time you complete a workout,
your brain sends a signal that induces a sense of achievement,
which boosts your confidence directly.
I don’t want to hear any excuses,
and you shouldn’t want to hear any form of excuse from yourself.
Hit the gym at least 3 days per week.
Fall in love with the process, not the result.
You are building something, and it is yourself.
There is nothing more beautiful than that.
4. Focus on Good Body Language
Keep your chin up, back straight, chest out,
and stand tall without covering your neck.
These are some of the hacks that can lead to a person
believing that he is feeling confident.
Keep it simple.
5. Own Your Strengths
Your self-confidence relies on your ability
to pay attention to your talents, achievements, and advantages.
By simply committing a little extra time each day
to remind yourself of your strengths,
you can boost your self-esteem and build that confidence.
Confidence is being relaxed in your own skin.
It is not about others, nor does confidence favor comparison;
it is just about you and what makes you unique.
6. Don’t Try to Fit In
Trying to fit in is the greatest barrier on the path to confidence.
It’s not your job to worry about
what others are going to think about you.
They will laugh at you, they will mock you, but in the end,
they will use you as an example.
Stand firm on your values.
