How To Overcome Lust, Depression, and Heartbreak

Life is already hard enough.

You live in a world that is not natural to you

and have literally every reason to go crazy,

so pat yourself on the back for surviving.

However, you also have to understand that there is always room

for improvement.

Whether you are at your highest of highs or lowest of lows,

routines and habits are essential to ground yourself when dealing with

lust, depression, and the everyday struggles of being human.

Here are the steps to help you stick your feet in the ground and jump out of those lows.

1. Clean Your Surrounding Area

No matter where you are in life, start your day

and your journey by cleaning your surroundings.

• Make your bed: The first thing you should do in the morning is make your bed. Do not even leave your room without making it. This is a small win that influences your day to go well. Aim small, miss small.
• Your environment is an influencer: Imagine waking up, getting on your phone, and stepping over trash and clothes just to get out of your room. You have woken up in an infested environment, and that is what your mind takes in.
• The state of your bed is the state of your head: If you are in a clean, pristine environment that smells like lavender, it is mentally hard to be dirty. If you are in an environment that smells like a pigsty, you will fit right in. Clean your room, your car, your house—clean something.

2. Be Intentional Morning and Night

Start your day and end your day

with something very intentional for yourself.

• Do something for you: Meditation helps, but if you don’t want to meditate, just sit down and think about yourself, your day, and what you want. Eat a pancake and look out the window. Just spend time doing something for you.
• Avoid waking up to tasks you hate: The worst thing you can do is get up and immediately start doing something you don’t want to do (like getting straight on your phone or waking up just in time to rush to a job you hate).
• Wake up earlier: If you don’t have time for yourself, you will be emotionally vulnerable, worn out, and open to bad habits like lust and depression. Wake up early enough to make your bed, have a snack, and intentionally think about how you want your day to go.

3. Exercise and Move Your Body

You have to move your body.

Movement is not about being confined to a gym;

you can work out anywhere—outside or in your house.

The journey is about you, not anybody else.

• Find a workout that fits you: Many people get anxious or lost spending hours on YouTube trying to find the “perfect” workout. There is no perfect workout, but there is a workout for you. The speaker mentions using a personal trainer app like Trainwell to get custom-tailored workouts, especially helpful for dealing with past injuries.
• Work for your results: Not everything in life is microwavable or instantly stimulating like social media or pornography. Exercising teaches you physically and mentally that progress comes to those who put in work. You don’t get big biceps by just looking at the curling bar.

4. Eat Cleaner and Consume Better

You are what you eat.

When you eat trash,

you become trash physically and mentally.

• Clean up your diet: You don’t have to have the purest gut—you can still enjoy life, cakes, and fries—but you need to know your limits. Cut out unnecessary snacking, sugars, and processed food.
• Use common sense: Get off the colorful aisles in the grocery store and go to where the fruit is. If you have a sweet tooth, get an apple or grapes. You don’t have to abandon all fast food, but look for healthy options and work with what you have without complaining.
• Mind what you consume mentally: Eating clean isn’t just about what goes into your mouth; it is about what goes into your mind. If you watch trash, you will be trash.

5. Get Off Your Phone

Limit your screen time.

There is too much on the internet that is enticing and triggering you.

• Social media triggers lust and depression: You see so much of it online. Social media is often the pregame lobby to pornography.
• Stop hijacking your brain: If the first thing you do when you wake up—and the last thing you do before sleep—is get on your phone, you are hijacking your mind and ruining your quality of rest. You are processing 25 memes during your sleeping cycle and wondering why you are tired.
• Get creative: If you think the world is boring without a phone, you are making excuses. Go outside, touch grass, talk to people, and get creative. Live your life.

If you catch yourself slipping or being triggered by a thought,

step out of it.

Run from that thought, surrender it, drop down, and do pushups.

Do whatever you have to do to run from it;

there is no need to fight it.

Now, get off your phone.