How to Last Longer in Bed

The desire to last longer in bed is natural.

No one starts out excellent or performs like an elite from day one.

I understand the shame that comes from bad performance.

It hits hard.

You start questioning yourself, thinking,

“Am I not the man I thought I was?”

or trying to convince yourself that you don’t care.

But we men love feeling powerful.

I love it, and every man who denies that is lying.

We love dominating the bedroom, making her sweat,

and knowing how good the intimate moment was.

Sex is not just a physical practice;

it includes imagination, emotions, and mechanics.

All of these contribute to when you ejaculate,

sometimes faster, sometimes longer.

Here are 7 massive hacks to control your energy:

1. Make Sex the Norm: F*ck More

If you have just started having sex,

it is still something “out of the ordinary” for you.

Your mind and body are reacting to the novelty

by taking advantage of it as quickly as possible.

Time and the quantity of sex will naturally silence that voice.

The more you do it, the more your body adapts to the sensation.

2. The Stop-Start Method

It consists of having sex in fits and starts:

thrust a few times, then stop.

It works, but if this is your only method

and you don’t do anything else during the stops,

it makes the overall sexual experience less natural and passionate.

It could also be harder for her to reach an orgasm.

But if you add some position switching during the breaks,

it works wonders.

3. Pelvic Floor Exercises

Your pelvic floor muscles

help support both your bladder and ejaculation.

Exercises that help strengthen this muscle group

may help improve your ability to delay ejaculation.

Kegel exercises help men just as much as they do women.

But they require a consistent commitment to show results.

Here is a guide for pelvic floor exercise.

4. Distract Your Mind From Sex

An old classic.

Take your mind off sex with deeply un-arousing thoughts.

You will reduce the pleasurable sensations you are experiencing,

and it will make you last longer.

5. Break Through the Wall, Then Coast

You know that feeling you get when you start running very quickly,

and suddenly you’re short of breath?

You need to overcome those key moments

when you’re almost about to come.

That’s the moment to slow down, change position,

or squeeze the base—whatever it takes until you hit your stride.

Once you pass that peak, you can usually last much longer.

6. Add Non-Penetrative Sex to the Menu

It’s reductive to think of sex as just penetration.

Especially if your worry is lasting longer for her,

because women don’t see sex the way men do.

They have a wider, more holistic view of sex

that goes beyond pure penetration.

Engage in more foreplay, kiss more, and use your tongue and fingers.

Then, even if the penetrative sex doesn’t last as long,

it’s not a problem

because it was only one item on the menu,

and the overall experience was satisfying.

7. Make Her Come First

Do lots of foreplay, learn to give proper head, and use your fingers.

Make sure she finishes before you even start penetration.

Then, go for it. She won’t mind if you finish quickly

because she is already satisfied.