How to Deal With Loneliness

There is a growing epidemic of young men feeling isolated and alone,

not just in one country, but around the world.

The statistics regarding men facing homelessness, imprisonment,

and suicide are astronomically high.

This reality has led many good men to step back from

society and relationships,

feeling that the current cultural climate

and certain modern movements are hostile toward them.

However, despite these challenges

and the feeling that good partners are hard to find,

solid people with strong values do still exist.

The difficulty lies in navigating this landscape

without losing yourself in the process.

Making Yourself a Good Companion

When loneliness sets in, it is natural to look for connection

on physical, emotional, mental, or spiritual levels.

But before seeking companionship externally,

you must first address the one companion

who will always be with you: yourself.

Many people choose less-than-ideal relationships simply

because they cannot face the alternative of being alone.

This happens because they are not comfortable

with themselves as companions.

To combat this, you must become someone you actually

want to spend time with.

• Stop lying to yourself: The hardest thing for a human to do is to face the reality of who and what they are. Speak the truth to yourself, but do so with understanding and forgiveness.
• Acknowledge the past, but don’t live in it: You must admit when your past actions or mindsets were wrong, but you must also remind yourself that you are human, you are making it right, and you are no longer that person. If your internal voice is constantly beating you up over past failures, you will never want to be alone with yourself.

Becoming Your Own Source of Encouragement

A good companion gently pushes you to get out of your rut

and encourages you to do better.

If you do not have someone in your life doing that for you,

you must become that person for yourself.

• Take responsibility for your environment: If you are stuck in a negative environment, a city filled with crime, or a situation breeding despair, realize that you are not trapped unless you choose to stay. Leaving takes courage and sacrifice—it might mean selling everything you own and starting over from nothing—but it can be done.
• Don’t compromise your soul for a temporary connection: The physical aspects of a relationship are hardwired into human nature, but the destruction that toxic relationships cause to your soul and spirit is not worth the temporary comfort.

Standing Strong Without Reacting in Anger

It is crucial not to let external cultural

movements or hostility destroy you.

Nobody can destroy you if you do not let them.

Stand up, make the hard decisions, make the sacrifices,

and become comfortable in your own skin.

You have the full power, right, and responsibility to change yourself

if you are not currently someone you enjoy being alone with.

When a cultural pendulum swings too far in one direction,

human nature is to react by swinging it

too far in the opposite direction.

Do not let the hostility of the world turn you into someone

hateful, mean, or derogatory.

• Do not react to extreme movements with extreme opposition.
• Do not fall into the trap of believing you are at war with the opposite sex.
• Be the “warrior in a garden”—stand strong, be a good man, and let the world rage around you without losing your own character.