Give me 3 minutes, and I’ll improve your communication skills by 88%
You are already ahead of 90% of the people your age
if you can just communicate confidently.
It is statistically proven that better communicators get
better job opportunities, make more money,
and attract higher quality partners.
There is a massive demand for good communicators
but very little supply.
Being a good communicator today is the equivalent
of being a 6’3″ handsome man in our generation.
The Story of the Blockage
When I was 12, I was the school captain
and the best speaker in my primary school.
But a few months later, insecurity hit me hard.
I saw my girlfriend eyeing my friend,
and that jealousy spiraled into deep anxiety.
I started looking in the mirror every day, thinking I was ugly,
even though I wasn’t.
Because I built those insecurities, my communication skills suffered.
Imagine a pipe. This pipe represents your ability to speak.
The water flowing through
it represents the quality of your communication.
Because of my anxiety, I developed “gunk” in this tap.
You could be the best speaker out there,
but if you have anxiety, embarrassment, or fear of judgment,
you won’t be able to express yourself clearly.
It feels like there is a block in your throat.
The first step is to ask yourself: What is causing the gunk?
Is it a fear of judgment? Is it past trauma?
You must find the root cause to clear the blockage.
Once you reduce the blockage,
here are four ways to improve the quality of the water itself.
1. Intention Creates Tension
You must realize the intention behind why you speak.
When I was younger,
I went up to a girl with the intention of getting validated by her.
I didn’t want to connect; I just wanted her approval.
The result? awkward silence.
If I had gone in with the intention just to connect,
it would have gone much better.
- If you speak to attract, you create pressure.
- If you speak to connect, spread love, and spread positivity, the blockage reduces.
2. Read More Books
Reading does two things for you:
- Increases Vocabulary: You don’t need to be robotic, but expanding your vocabulary raises the “cap” on your communication quality. I highlight one or two words per reading session that I want to use in public.
- Mental Rehearsal: When you read, you are mentally rehearsing the words in your mind. This practice translates directly to better speech.
3. Improve Your Appearance
I am not saying “looks match,” but when you feel confident, you express yourself better.
- Get clothes that actually fit you (they don’t have to be expensive).
- Get a haircut.
- Fix your sleep and skin.
These simple things make you feel good, which naturally clears the “gunk” of insecurity from the tap.
4. Speak on Camera
This has improved my communication the most.
If you look at my first YouTube video from three years ago,
my tone was weak and unsure.
Now, I am confident simply because I practiced.
You don’t even have to post it publicly.
Spend 5 to 10 minutes a day sitting in a chair
and just yapping to the camera. Document your life.
Use it as a journal.
You are making your life into a movie while sharpening
the most valuable skill you can possess.
