Being Alone May Be the Solution to a lot of your Problems

As difficult as it is to admit, being alone may be the answer

to many of the problems we face today.

There are numerous toxic relationships and friendships

where people are only present for transactional reasons.

• People often enter your life because they want something from you or because of what you can do for them.
• When they can no longer get what they want, they vanish.
• While this survival tactic is common, it is not a dynamic you have to be a part of.

Genuine bonds are rare because many people only pose

as supporters when they are getting what they want.

They will agree with everything you say

and support everything you do until the transactions stop.

It is crucial to bring awareness to this dynamic

so you do not unknowingly allow it into your life.

The Comfort of Bad Company

Many people endure terrible treatment simply

because they are afraid of being alone.

This fear keeps them trapped in toxic environments.

• The Bully Dynamic: In many friend groups, there is someone who constantly gets picked on. They never stand up for themselves because they would rather endure the bullying than be lonely and have to find new friends.
• The Dream Killers: You may have friends who put you down or laugh at your goals for growth and advancement. Instead of branching off and being by yourself, you stay because going through that torture feels easier than solitude.
• The Takers: These are connections who only reach out when they need something—money or some form of compensation. They never ask how you are doing unless it is a setup to take something from you later.

When these people lose access to what you provide,

they turn on you.

Stop watering dead plants; once you do,

you will realize they were dead all along.

Solitude as a Tool for Truth

Being alone is often the answer,

and it does not mean you have to feel lonely.

You are always with yourself, never by yourself.

Sometimes, going into a period of solitude

or “solitary confinement” is necessary to uncover the truth

about the people in your life.

• Step away from people, stop reaching out, and see who is actually there for you.
• Analyze the people you hang around because they will shape your future in some way.
• If your life feels like a perpetual dump and there is more bad than good, analyze your surroundings—including your own actions. You might be a nuisance to your own life by enabling transactional relationships.

It is scary to be lonely,

but it is far worse to be surrounded by people who do not care

about you or have your best interests at heart.

If you are alone, at least your “team” is 100% solid.

If the ship sinks, you go down with it,

rather than having the people inside poking holes in it

and swimming to safety while you drown.

Protecting Your Energy and Setting Boundaries

You must take responsibility for who you allow into your life.

People do not force their way in; you let them.

• Self-Accountability: Even when people do you wrong, ask yourself what you could have done differently. If you notice a transactional relationship and continue to give, you are enabling them.
• Prioritize Yourself: Everyone is looking out for themselves, which is exactly why you must look out for yourself. If you try to fix everybody else’s problems and never tend to your own, you will end up exhausted, sick, and drained.
• Redefining Friendship: Do not expect one person to be everything to you. Find pieces of what you need in different people—someone for the book club, someone for parties, someone for deep conversations. Through this, you will eventually weave out the few truly good people who belong in your inner circle.

Blood does not make you family,

and exchanging conversations does not make someone a friend.

You do not have to trust everyone

with your inner circle or your energy.

Take time to analyze your life, your friends,

and the energy you receive, and make sure you

are looking out for yourself first and foremost.