7 Habits That Are Slowly Killing You
I am a firm believer in the idea that we are responsible
for most of our life situations.
There are events and things we can’t control, no matter what we do,
but how we react to them defines everything.
You can’t live with toxic habits and expect your life to be just
as good as those people who live with good habits.
It is like marrying an ungrateful wife and expecting peace.
It will never work out.
The problem arises because people don’t like changing.
They would rather rot in their habits and complain about how
bad life is than change.
Change is difficult for all humans,
but it is the only way to a good life.
But before change, awareness is essential.
You have to become aware of certain habits that are slowly damaging
your life.
Here are the 7 habits that are slowly killing you:
1. Not feeling your repressed emotions
I repressed my emotions for too long in the past,
and it backfired later.
I know we live in a society that sees emotions as weakness,
and men are pushed to never express how they feel.
We are humans, and emotions are part of us.
You sabotage yourself every time you suppress what you feel.
Find a healthy way to feel your emotions
and release what is repressed, or you will suffer the consequences.
Resisting fear becomes chronic anxiety.
Repressed sadness becomes numbness.
Buried anger becomes depression.
Be careful when repressing your emotions.
What you resist persists.
2. Scrolling the moment you wake up
When we wake up, we are still subconsciously active,
which is important as it sets the tone for
how we feel throughout the day.
Now that you are aware of that,
stop letting social media algorithms dictate that.
There is a reason why priests and monks always pray
and meditate in the morning when they wake up.
I run 5 km every morning,
and I understand the urge to open your favorite app and see the news.
But every time I resist and complete my run,
I end up feeling so good.
The truth is, you eventually become what you consume.
3. Keeping yourself small to make others comfortable
You dim your light so they don’t feel insecure.
Please stop doing that. I know you are avoiding envy or want to fit in,
but that’s not the way.
You downplay your wins so they don’t feel inadequate.
Stop shrinking. The right people celebrate your expansion.
Everyone else can adjust or leave.
Everything you lose by being yourself is not meant to be in your life.
4. Blaming your past for your present
Your childhood. Your trauma. Your circumstances. Your toxic ex.
Your narcissistic father/mother.
All valid reasons you struggled.
But at some point, it becomes an excuse.
A crutch. A reason to stay stuck.
Own what happened.
Then take responsibility for what happens next.
Heal, learn, overcome, and free yourself from that victim mindset.
5. Living like you have unlimited time
“I’ll start tomorrow, I will tell her/him how I feel tomorrow,
I will go on that trip next season,
I will join the gym next month,” and all the other excuses.
Before you know it, five years have passed.
The dream is still a dream.
The goal is still “someday.” Don’t play yourself like that.
You are not lying to anyone other than yourself.
Every moment you waste is gone forever.
Stop living like you have forever. You don’t.
Live with urgency, live with purpose, live with love.
6. Chasing a problem-free life
Life’s motto is:
Problem after problem.
There’s no such thing as a problem-free life.
You will always have things that need fixing, doing, and completing,
even when you are on vacation or just at peace with yourself.
Don’t wait until everything is perfect to enjoy your life.
Enjoy the process now.
Learn to enjoy your life while solving these problems
and achieving your goals.
7. Keeping toxic people around because you’re afraid to be alone
The friend who drains you.
The partner who disrespects you.
The family member who belittles you.
You’d rather have bad company than no company.
This habit is toxic, and you should stop it.
Being alone is better than being with the wrong people.
