22 Things to Talk About With Women (Ranked from Best to Worst)
Here is the definitive list of conversation topics
to use with women, ranked from the absolute best “go-to”
topics down to the ones you should avoid at all costs.
1. Stupid Stuff
This is a “goated” topic.
Talking about stupid, nonsensical things
(like a goat sticking its tongue out) allows you to drop to the
“language of play” and emotion.
It lowers her anxiety and creates a fun,
loose vibe where you aren’t taking yourself too seriously.
2. Immediate Environment
If your mind goes blank, look around.
Everything you need to talk about is right in front of you—her red shirt,
the buildings, the lighting.
Shallow and superficial topics often work better than
“deep” talks because they are easy and low-pressure.
3. People
Aristotle said “weak minds discuss people,”
but women love discussing people.
They are social creatures who constantly talk about social dynamics
and gossip.
Discussing the people around you engages their emotions
and plays to their strengths.
4. Relationships, Love, & Sexual Dynamics
This is instantly “goated”.
It is intimate, interesting, and allows you to flirt
and build romantic chemistry.
You can talk about what attracts her or what she loves in a partner,
which gives you valuable information
while escalating the vibe.
5. Her Future
Use the power of her imagination.
Tell her to close her eyes and imagine herself in 20 years.
If she pictures a house and kids while she is with you,
she is subconsciously associating that future with you.
6. Your Life
Contrary to popular belief, women love a selfish guy
who talks about himself.
When you talk about your life,
you force her to enter your frame and your reality.
You become the main character,
and she becomes the side character,
which increases your value in her eyes.
7. Movies & TV Shows
Every girl watches movies and TV shows.
It provides endless material—you can talk about characters you hate,
endings that pissed you off,
or shows you both love (like The Vampire Diaries).
8. Astrology
You might think it’s crazy, but women love astrology.
Even if you know nothing about it, pretend you do
or just ask for her sign.
You can even use it to playfully disqualify her (“Oh, you’re a Scorpio?
We’re not compatible”).
9. Food
Women love food and love taking pictures of it.
It is an easy, enjoyable topic that everyone relates to.
10. Her Life (With a Caveat)
Common advice says “be a good listener,”
but simply nodding while she yaps will land you in the friend zone.
Talk about her life, but keep it 50/50.
If she is talking, make sure you are teasing her or laughing at her,
not just passively listening.
11. Music
A solid topic. Most women love music,
and it allows for a connection,
though it doesn’t necessarily spike attraction on its own.
12. The Weather
This is a “meh” filler topic.
Use it only when you have brain fog
and need a few seconds to transition to something better.
13. Girl Stuff
Makeup, lip fillers, gossip—talking about this is considered
“gay” by many, but some guys can pull it off if they are secure.
Generally, it’s a mediocre topic for a man.
14. Sports
Unless she plays on a team,
she probably doesn’t care.
Sports conversations tend to be one-sided and bore women.
15. Politics
Hot girls generally don’t care about politics;
usually, it is the “mids” or unattractive girls who get triggered by it.
It is a risky topic that often leads to arguments rather than attraction.
16. Philosophy (Avoid)
This is an attraction killer.
Women don’t like men who make them think;
they like men who make them feel.
Save the debates on determinism
and materialism for your guy friends.
17. Work (Avoid)
Work signals stress, bills, and reality.
Women want good vibes and an escape from reality,
not a reminder of their 9-to-5 grind.
18. Worries, Struggles & Depression (Avoid)
Never talk about your struggles or depression.
It is anti-seductive.
While she might offer to help,
her sexual interest in you will drop immediately.
19. Ambitions (Avoid)
Women don’t see “potential”;
they only see what is currently in front of them.
Talking about ambition might actually backfire,
she may categorize you as a future provider
and make you wait for sex while she sleeps
with the guys who are fun now.
20. Money (Avoid)
Don’t talk about money;
show it through your lifestyle.
Talking about digits makes you look like a beta provider.
21. Past Breakups & Rejections (Avoid)
Talking about exes or rejections is “pre-rejection”.
If you tell her other women didn’t want you,
she will assume there is a reason and won’t want you either.
22. Self-Improvement Journey (Avoid)
Men respect the struggle; women only care about the result.
Don’t tell her about your weight loss journey or how hard you worked.
Act like you were born this way.
