10 Things to NEVER Tell A Woman
All of us have made mistakes in the past.
But the rules of engagement are nuanced—what applies
to your wife does not apply to a girl you just met.
Here are the things you should never say to a woman if you want to maintain attraction and respect.
1. “I Love You” (Too Early)
This depends entirely on the stage of the relationship.
If you just met a girl, matched on Tinder,
and have been talking for two weeks, hitting her with an intense
“I love you” is the fastest way to turn her off.
Women you are courting do not want you to love them yet.
The “meta” for dating is to keep it casual and playful.
You don’t want to be too serious or intense
until the relationship is established.
Save the meaningful “I love you” for your wife—someone
with a proven track record of loyalty and respect.
2. “I Need You”
Never say this. I don’t care if she is your wife;
you do not need anyone.
Is she paying your bills? Is she paying your taxes?
If she is, you don’t need her; you need a job.
Saying “I need you” is the most desperate form of communication
because it puts her on a pedestal high above you.
When you do that, she will look down on you
and eventually look for a man who doesn’t need her.
3. “I Don’t Know, You Decide”
This is a massive mistake.
Many men hate planning,
but you must make it a habit.
When you leave the decision-making to the woman,
she feels like she is in the leadership position.
Feminine women hate being in a leadership position;
they hate feeling like they are walking you around like a dog on a leash.
If you leave the decisions to her, you kill the attraction.
4. “Do You Want to Go on a Date?”
This is a rookie mistake.
Asking “Do you want to go on a date sometime?”
shows you have no backbone.
It is easy to avoid. Instead of asking, state your plans:
“Hey, I’m going to [Location] at [Time]. Come along.”
If she says no, you were going anyway.
That is the casual state you want to maintain.
5. “Will You Be My Girlfriend?”
You generally want to avoid asking for commitment.
You have to let her ask the inevitable question: “What are we?”
The feminine imperative is to seek security and commitment.
The masculine imperative is sexual variety.
You should be hesitant about commitment
until she is the one asking for it.
If you insist on asking, do not do it in a “simpy” way.
But ideally, let her come to you.
6. Talking About Past Rejections
Never tell a girl about your ex who cheated on you
or the girls who rejected you.
Women do not judge other women; they judge men.
If you tell her your ex was toxic or left you, she subconsciously hears:
“I can’t keep women” or “Women don’t like me.”
You must give off the illusion that you are pre-selected
and that you never struggle with women.
7. Self-Deprecating Humor
This is a terrible formula:
you compliment her (putting her on a pedestal)
and then make a joke about how you suck (putting yourself in the dirt).
The gap between you becomes so wide that she cannot respect you.
Never talk badly about yourself, even as a joke.
Do not say, “Yeah, I’m ugly, no girl wants me.”
You are seeking pity, but you are destroying attraction.
8. “You’re the Only Girl I’m Talking To”
Even if she is the only girl you are talking to,
never directly confirm it.
It kills the mystery and the idea of pre-selection.
Women cannot resist pre-selection.
Always keep her wondering and guessing.
If she thinks you have no other options, her interest will drop.
9. Verbally Expressing Boundaries
If you have to constantly verbalize your boundaries
(e.g., “Don’t go to the club,” “Don’t post that”),
she is likely not the right woman for you.
The right woman comes “pre-assembled” with the values you want.
You are rarely going to convince a woman to change
her fundamental behavior with words.
If you have to force it, it’s a waste of time.
10. “Why Are You Taking So Long to Reply?”
A guy who has a life, a mission,
and options does not care if she takes long to reply.
If you ask this, or ask “Is everything okay?
You’ve been distant,” you confirm that you are desperate
and emotionally weak.
If she becomes distant, let her be distant. If you truly love something,
let it free. If she was meant to be, she will come back.
Chasing her only pushes her further away.
